I've used Eset NOD32 for about 10 years now. It's accessible, and one of the best rated antiviruses.
I personally hate windows defender, because it detects a lot of false positives (including nearly every game made in BGT, and some other scripting languages like AutoIt).
You may want to know that before windows 10, windows defender was not treated as antivirus, but rather as antispyware software, and as such it's not recommended to rely solely on windows defender in the versions of Windows below 10, because it won't provide the full protection of an antivirus.
I've used AVG like 10 years ago for a very short time, and as far as I can remember, it was accessible at least mostly. I also tried avast 6 around that time, and it was accessible, and it was a good antivirus in my opinion, but I personally think that they ruined it since. even the version 7 started having false positives, and the accessibility was broken.
There's no way for you to tell windows defender not to automatically capture things, and to make it ask you if you want to let it quarantine it. the only thing you could do is: disable realtime protection, which will stop it from automatically watching for viruses in the background, and thus stop it from automatically capturing files.
There's also a registry hack that lets you disable defender completely, but I'd advise against it, because if you don't have any other antivirus software, you'll be left without any protection, and that's not smart, especially in this day and age, where you have all sorts of malware floating around, and all sorts of malware attacks are happening.